My husband and I celebrated our ninth wedding anniversary with a yoga class.
We’ve actually been going together every Sunday since December. It’s our chance to not only challenge ourselves with a different kind of training (one we really need) but also recharge, connect and share something we both enjoy that is good for us.
Hubby actually loves yoga and he was the one who suggested we make it a weekly thing.
We both do yoga. We both power lift.
In fact right now we are doing the same training plan. I had created it for him a couple months ago and he liked it so much I decided to try it out when I was in need of a new program. (And I must say, it’s a good one!)
He’s a man and I am a woman, but there is no reason why we can’t do the same lifting plan just like we both benefit from taking a yoga class.
It is a myth that men and women need to train differently.
Women can lift heavy just like men without bulking up. Men need to stretch and be flexible. We may sometimes have different workout preferences, but our bodies respond pretty similarly to training.
Recently I had the pleasure of taking on my first married couple as clients. Maggie and Andy came to me interested in training together, and at first Andy was a little concerned about whether it would work well. He wasn’t sure if he should be training differently than Maggie, and straight up asked me if he would be better off working with a male trainer.
My answer: no! Not only do I happen to believe I am a great trainer, and I also happen to believe all my clients should lift weights, perform functional movements, do metabolic conditioning, and stretch.
Gender doesn’t matter – everyone needs to be strong, stable and mobile.
Andy and Maggie were willing to give it a shot and they are now three months into training together. They both really love it, and they are both lifting heavy and making great physical progress!
In 12 weeks Maggie lost 15 pounds, 4% body fat and almost 12 inches. Andy lost almost 30 pounds, 4% body fat and 15 inches!
They’ve both started dead lifting and have also gotten a lot stronger. I have so much fun planning their workouts and figuring out how I can challenge them both (Andy is a lot taller and larger than his wife) and still make it fun.
On their non-training days Andy and Maggie go to the gym together or do walks or runs outside. They cook and plan healthy meals to share.
Having the goal to eat healthier and feel better is great, and if your partner is on the same page that is going to go a long way towards your own success (and theirs.)
I think it is so cool they are doing this together – and even give each other high fives and words of encouragement throughout the workout. They truly are each other’s biggest supporters.
They have even inspired other couples to ask about training together!
Training as a couple isn’t for everyone, but most importantly I want you to know your spouse doesn’t necessarily need to do different workouts. Stepping out of your comfort zone is a good thing, and can actually bring you closer!
Maybe you could get your husband to try the yoga class you love, or maybe you could join him in the weight room sometime.
Even just going for a walk or jog together is a wonderful way to show you both are making an effort to make your health (and your relationship) a priority.
Trying to change your habits, get healthy and/or lose weight can be a difficult journey and one that isn’t always fun. Having the support of someone close to you and knowing they are working just as hard is certainly motivating and encouraging.
If you feel like your spouse isn’t on board with your health and fitness goals, here are some suggestions:
– Take a cooking class together or pick a new recipe to try each week and cook together.
– Take a walk together after work instead of watching TV.
– Challenge each other to make one healthy change then compete to see who is more successful.
– Go to the gym and do a workout class or lift together.
– Play tennis, basketball, volleyball or another sport either with a community team or just for fun.
Let your partner know part of the reason you want to get healthier is because you love them and you want to be happy, healthy and strong to enjoy a long life together.
Taking care of you makes you a happier person which makes you a better partner. It is not selfish to invest in your own health and fitness.
And if you can both make it a priority and make it something you share, that’s even better!